There's nothing casual about you, don't let any man treat you like it. You have every right to know what his intentions are with you and where your life is headed.
 
Pay attention to his actions because they are also very honest confessions of his character. You may be disappointed to learn that most young boys don't get it right but eventually they grow up. Don't feel obligated to wait for them to hit their growth spurts though. 
 
It's okay to be arm-strong but learn to be self-strong, first. If it can be taken away, don't anchor your happiness in it. Even in love, save a piece of yourself for yourself. By and by you will understand what I mean. Just know you are already made complete in God and never in the discovery of a lover. This doesn't mean you are less dedicated, this means you are grounded in truth.

“People look at you strange saying you changed. Like you worked that hard to stay the same.”
-Jay-Z

“A mind that is stretched by a new experience can never go back to its old dimensions.”
-Oliver Wendell Holmes, Jr.

I had an idea to write this blog but hesitated because it was such sensitive subject matter. However, I finally found the courage to share. For me there use to be nothing more awkward than visiting home during college breaks, and realizing how much I no longer connected with people I grew up with. I progressively learned to avoid questions about myself and down play my accomplishments. Not because I wasn’t proud of myself, but because I never wanted to make others feel uncomfortable in the face of my achievements. Nor did I want people to feel the need to surrogate false feelings of happiness for me. So when people asked me how I was doing instead of being honest and telling them my favorite highlights

Sex to me is the highest and most intimate celebration of love. It is special to me because it is sharing your body, your energy, and your matter with another person. In my world there's nothing casual about being offered the privilege to invade in someone's personal space like that. To have sex and dismiss the connection that is being shared is the absolute lowest experience. To use someone only as a means to your end cheapens what sex means. Sex is powerful for the spirit and the flesh...so very powerful that it carries the potential to create new life. Needless to say, we live in a culture where sex is easily available, which means we get to bypass ever seeing the value in it. Sex has literally become a retreat for selfish-pleasure instead of mutual bonding. We've lost what the exchange should be about; we have forgotten that sex should, in my opinion, be an exchange.

MI·SOG·Y·NY
1) dislike of, contempt for, or ingrained prejudice against women.
PRED·A·TOR
1) an animal that naturally preys on others.
2) a person or group that ruthlessly exploits others.
 
You may have a way with some women but this shouldn’t give you reason to believe all women are the same. With continuous success comes confidence so I understand why you are confident given the women you have entirely had your way with. But I want you to diversify your palette. Please stop painting the picture of women with one stereotypical broad stroke because you’ve been successful with a small subset of the female population.

​I found myself deeply curious about if it was truly biology that compelled men to cheat, or if that was just a social construct said to give men a pass. Not knowing the answer to this made me take a long hard look at marriage and reconsider if it was something I ever really wanted to do. The more I matured and my innocence divorced me, society allowed me to unravel some harsh truths.